Blog No. 5

Who am I Without You 

(Agents of Socialization)

What is a family?

I think everyone of us here has a family to start engaging the world. Families are who you love. They are the ones that are there for you in times of happiness and sadness. They are your supporters, especially  on the moments that you needed them the most. Our families all “look” different and it's always been so. They witness my growing years, starting from a cute baby girl that now turns out to be a grown-up lady. Common families nowadays are called to be immature compared to the past years in the field of planning and in marriage. My grandmother Ruth, a one of a kind woman ever in my life shared that they have a firm foundation regarding on how to raise a family. She points me out all the old traditions in her timeline and it seems like it has a big difference in terms of guiding and nurturing.

In relation to our topic, we can't imagine ourselves facing all struggles just by our own. We cant even stay in a place without a helping-hand, how much more without a family when you‘re growing up? Out of the billions of people swarming, I consider myself as one of the lucky one here on the earth. Even though I dont have a father by my side, still I have a loving mother who really loves me more than anything else in this world including my grandma and grandpa which made me more lucky of having a happy and loving family. My mom says that being a parent is not an easy job. It is very risky. The child’s attitude will reflect to the parents attitude on how they were treated as humans and the skills that the parents taught them. I have this neighbor that has a son. When she laugh, she'll slap her son on the back. The day after that, while her son is playing with his playmates and they're enjoying, he just slap his friend on the back not knowing that what he has done hurts the other boy and just do nothing. So the trait of the parent slapping on the back had been adopt by his son. There are also some instances to me that I learn something that my parents haven’t taught me. Just like our Sociology teacher taught as that during the toddlerstage, our mind is set whether we trust people or mistrust. Aside from the stage that I undergo, I experience emotional changes like I learn how to be shy and started to think on things whether is it right or wrong.

Our community is a zone of persons that are very exellent in the field of business. Upon living and endulging myself here in our community, positions is really a big deal. I witness, at the same time experience this back when I was a child. I have a rich friend and also a low class friend. We play everyday at the  back of Lola Tanying’s house. There we play different kinds of palarong pilipino. There is no such time that we wont play together. The rich kid’s parents always work and have no time to take care of him except his nanny. There comes this one time that his mom went to get him. Upon seeing him playing with my low class friend, his mom took him away and drag him to the car then went home. From then on, he never play with us again. I talked to him and he said, “my mom doesn’t like befriending him because her parents have a bad record in the community and his father is a ex-convict. Her parents dont have a nice job too thats why my mom forbids me.” Its really a cruel thing, doesn’t it? In conclusion, social classes and races have a big impact to each one of us. In the result, we learn how to adjust and come into realization that it really sticks in our minds and affects us.

According to Jane Blaustone, “The best security blanket a child can have is parents who respect each other.” When see parents respecting each other, that trait will inherit by their children and will be passed on unto the next generation. So everything starts to the acts of our parents.

Family is everything. Let us put ourselves in a situation without a family. Is it worth living? A big NO for me. Family is your home. Family helps together for the progress of the other. Family shape the community. Family is where your secrets are are protected. And family helps you to achieve your dreams on what you wanted to become and on what you wanted to gain in the future. Family is not perfect. But despite of the imperfections, they analyze each one’s problem and give a hand on what they can offer. Without family, you will grow up with missing pieces. No one appreciates, no one will know your potentials. Without my family, living life is pointless. Family isn’t categorized by blood also. I consider my friends and neighbors and treated them as my family too because they accept me from what I am and even if they know about my negative side, they still love me as me.

Its the people in your life who want you in theirs: the ones who accept you for who you are. The ones who would do anything to see you smile and who love you no matter what. So treasure your family. Most may end, but the love of a family is life’s greatest blessing.

Hannah Jy C. Panolino

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